January of every year is known as the month when people create goals to aspire to become better. Goal setting is a great exercise, it gives us direction, purpose, and sets the stage for even bigger goals down the road. But how we go about reaching goals, our attitude and effort, will either help us succeed and surpass, merely limp across the finish line, or crash and burn. Consider this article a straight forward pep talk on where we should be mentally as we look ahead to get our goals in 2020.
People have the tendency of approaching goals and goal setting with trepidation. The act of challenging ourselves to achieve something that, right now, is out of our realm of expertise (or even totally foreign) is unnerving and overwhelming.
That fact should not give us licence to take it easy on ourselves, because putting forth only the minimum effort required does not provide much in terms of valuable data. Challenging ourselves reveals strengths and weaknesses that show us where we need to focus our efforts to become mentally and physically stronger.
As a society, we’re conditioned to be content with “good enough”, never really striving for more from ourselves. However, there’s a resiliency and strength bubbling just underneath the surface of that minimum level of effort. To reach goals with a sense of accomplishment we need to break through merely being content and aim for our best, whatever that may look like. In my case, I am a crier and feel overwhelmingly inadequate. You might get mad, depressed, anxious, or feel regret. The possibilities are as complicated as we are.
During the process of challenging ourselves and our abilities we will face failure. No one likes to fail but it is through failure that the strength of our character is revealed. So it’s very important to get comfortable with the idea of failing and letting any subsequent failure be what it is, a moment in time and a great learning opportunity. To accept failure and build this constructive mental attitude it is essential to set our ego aside and always give our 100% best effort. Achieving a goal is all work ethic and, ultimately, the consistent effort we put forth will lead us to get that goal.
Building driving and daring to ask more of yourself than you may be equipped to give takes time, effort, mental and emotional strength. For the month of January, I challenge you to ask yourself if you have more to give to the process of goal getting than just the minimum required effort and if the answer is yes, dare yourself to do so. And that is the start of becoming a Goal Getter.
Caitlyn Harbottle is a Peace region nutrition coach.