Disney haunts my honeymoon

Like most women my age, I grew up in the new Disney Princess era, which was launched by The Little Mermaid in 1989 and carried forward with Beauty and the Beast, Aladdin, Pocahontas and many more huge hits that resonated and really stuck with 80s' kids.

Even at 30, I still love those movies, and let's face it, I still try to convince myself that a big part of me is actually Belle from Beauty and the Beast, with all her book-loving ways, her quick temper and her intolerance for conceited jerks.

And while it's fun for me to look back and relate to a Disney princess, now that I'm an adult and newly married, I can't help but think that those Disney movies really warped the reality for a lot of girls out there, planting seeds of love and romance that would never really blossom the way Disney told us they would.

There are many examples I could mull over and dissect where Disney steered us wrong, but as a new bride, perhaps the one that's stinging the most is the lack of lovey-dovey, super romantic emotions as a newlywed.

Feeling almost the same married to David as I did being engaged to him, I can't help but think that something's wrong with me. Where's the honeymoon romance and the swooning and those lovely starry eyes that Jasmine had after marrying Aladdin as they flew off cheek-to-cheek on their magic carpet?

Some days it's hard to grasp the fact that I'm married now, whereas on other days it's just another day, and there David and I are eating supper together like usual, but with new rings on our fingers watching Big Brother.

Am I broken? Or did Disney break my expectations?

Or, is it life and its harshness that's to blame for breaking our innocent expectations of love we develop by watching movies or reading novels?

Maybe it's a bit of both, but either way, I'm not sure how I feel about being an indifferent bride. Part of me is sad that I'm not all head-over-heels with emotion, because I think that Disney Princess Katie has always wanted to feel that way.

Another part, Realist Katie, knows that it's okay and perfectly normal to feel the way I do in 2014. After all, these days most of us live with our partners long before we're married, so really there isn't a lot of change after the Big Day aside from wedding bands and perhaps a name change - and more and more women aren't even doing that.

So what does it mean to be married in today's age that no longer sees dowries or separate living arrangements before the wedding? What's different about being engaged and married in 2014? Is it, as some cynics say, now just a piece of paper, or is it still a significant, wonderful life-changing event you share with your spouse?

Maybe it's a bit of both, depending on how you want to see it and how you want to live.

For me, I might not be swooning or blushing or fainting all over the place, but it does feel nice to be married, and I like being able to call myself a wife and call David my husband.

I'm liking being married, and when I think about it, I'm content -which is a big, wonderful relief after the stress of planning a wedding for 10 months. Being comfortable is exactly what I need to feel right now.

Contentment in an apartment. I'll take that over waltzing in an enchanted castle any day.

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