All women like flowers. Maybe they don’t necessarily favour roses, the stereotypical bouquet, but calla lilies, lilacs or gerbera daisies would be nice options varying from person to person. Whatever the kind, women like flowers and women love getting them even more.
It’s engrained in us to like, even expect, flowers from our dates. From old cartoons, to black and white photos and romantic movies, society has definitely suggested for years that getting a girl flowers is a way to her heart.
It might not be realistic, but it’s a good way to get her attention or put a smile on her face.
There are lots of people out there who think buying flowers for someone is complete B.S. and that it’s just yielding to society’s expectations and the commercialization of romance. True? Maybe, and obviously there are other (cheaper) ways to get a girl’s attention or say sorry, but are these people maybe being a bit cynical about the simple notion of flowers?
Giving someone flowers isn’t like participating in Valentine’s Day, a rather modern money-grab of a holiday. People have been giving flowers to love interests for thousands of years, and what’s wrong with that? Instead of looking at giving flowers as a money grab, why not look at it as an age-old tradition of romance and gratitude, a notion that has withstood the test of time and naturally developed into a business (supply and demand for a traditional gesture).
Just because it’s become a business like so many things in today’s society, that doesn’t mean the simple, historical tradition has become poisoned, no matter how cynical you are.
Getting flowers creates a positive emotion in a person, whether they’re given by a lover, a friend, family, a client or a boss. It’s nice to give or get flowers because it’s a simple gesture that can mean many things: thank you, I’m proud of you, I love you, Happy Birthday, congratulations and even I’m sorry to name a few.
There are good reasons why flowers are big business today, and that shouldn’t make the gesture of giving or receiving them negative. People were just smart enough to capitalize on the age-old tradition, and we can’t hate them for that (jealous, maybe).
Even the cynics who hate the notion of flowers would likely feel that surge of happiness on the surprise of a big, beautiful bouquet on their desk. Maybe they’d rather die before admit it, but that feeling would still exist deep down and would likely boost their mood for the rest of the day or whenever they looked at those flowers.
And that’s why flowers work. They’re beautiful, visual pick-me-ups that don’t need words (although those little cards that go with them are cute), and hey, if giving flowers has worked for almost a 2,000 years, they must be onto something, right?
The best way to give someone flowers in unexpectedly, not just on the standard holidays, birthdays or anniversaries. If you’re feeling there’s a slump in your marriage or that things are off, send your spouse a bouquet at their work or surprise them when you get home. If your best friend is having a hard week, why not drop by with a bottle of wine and some flowers? You’d be surprised how happy such a small notion can make someone.
The gesture of getting flower isn’t just for women either. Wives can buy their husbands flowers or something just as meaningful that might be more suited to their personalities – beer, for example (kidding, kind of, but surprise beer works wonders too).
Flowers aren’t miracle workers, however. They’re not going to fix your broken marriage or allow you to rewind time to not make that mistake you made (you’ll probably have to do more work than that), but they do tend to be a good mood booster and an ice breaker, and that’s a start.
So don’t listen to the cynics about giving or getting flowers. It’s an ancient tradition of romance and gratitude that’s existed long before their bitterness, so get out there and surprise someone you care about with a bouquet, just because. It can go a long way.