Anyone who's been married knows that after all is said and done, not everyone's going to be happy with your wedding. There's going to be someone - SOMEONE - who had fault with your Big Day, no matter how wonderful it turned out.
And while you may not have been told to your face, maybe you heard through the grapevine that some vegan-vegetarian-fruitarian thought you should've had more 'natural' selections in your buffet instead of the triple-bypass tubs you had set out.
Or maybe some hippie-dippie thought your choice of Christmas lights for a back drop wasn't very environmentally friendly when you could've went with jarred fireflies or some other magical option instead.
Well, you can't please everyone (as the story goes), so for those in the process of planning their wedding, how far SHOULD you go to please perhaps a more marginalized group of people who might be attending?
Nowadays there are all sorts of people out there, from hipsters to vegans to people who don't eat red meat yet still eat fish, etc. etc. So what are you supposed to do to make all of them happy? Spend an extra $1,000 - $2,000 on your caterer for extra dishes to make sure they give you a wonderful review? Or hire a 'green' wedding decorator to ensure your entire wedding doesn't leave a very big carbon footprint?
My answer: Nope.
Weddings are expensive enough, and unless a very large proponent of your guests are vegan/vegetarian/wedding decorators, etc., don't alter your buffet or plated menu for a few guests, or change your entire theme for a few critics who are probably hard to please as it is.
My advice is to make sure you have reasonable options, especially with the menu and the bar.
For me, I know a lot of people who don't eat red meat, so we made sure our buffet menu has salmon, chicken and beef options, as well as numerous hearty vegetable dishes, quinoa, couscous and salads. That way, vegetarians can fill up on the protein-rich quinoa/couscous and have plenty of vegetables to choose from, and the meat lovers are happy as well and have lots of sides.
Don't forget yourself in all this (which is easy to do when planning a wedding). Pick dishes you'll love and that most people will love as well, all while keeping the vegetarians in the back of your mind, but not letting them take over the menu.
As for the bar, my suggestion is to have a bit of everything, even tequila for the crazy shot-lovers.
And dÉcor? Don't even concern yourself about others, even the hippies, because you're always going to have critics, like people who love bling and pink or lace and burlap instead of whatever it is you went with.
At the end of the day, who cares what they think? It's your day, your design, your memory.
Basically, it's your wedding. Go with what you want and what's reasonable, and ignore the buzzing of the picky mosquitos trying to make things more complicated.
Choose YOUR choices, stick to your guns and eventually the 'skeeters will go find someone else to irritate. Or at least another wedding to criticize.
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