A couple of months ago, my fiancÉ and I mutually agreed to not have a honeymoon after the wedding in July; instead, we're coming right back up north two days after we get hitched on the Island and going back to work.
Most people have expressed some surprise when I told them this, wondering why we're not going on a vacation somewhere to celebrate the first week of our marriage, but our reasoning is good, and after balancing out the pros and cons of a July honeymoon, it made the most sense to wait until winter.
Mostly, we don't want to 'waste' a vacation going to somewhere tropical in the middle of summer. After all, we all know how long and terrible our winters are up here in the Peace Region, so it feels like we'd be idiots to go to the Caribbean in July rather than January when it's -40.
Another reason is money. We'd rather have a bit of time between the wedding and our honeymoon to save up for the trip. Weddings are expensive, and rather than going even deeper into debt by trying to pile on the cost of a honeymoon on top of everything else, we'd rather wait six months or so, pay down some of (or all of) the wedding, put aside some money and actually enjoy our vacation rather than stressing about the cost of it.
I think I'd enjoy my pina coladas much better knowing that we can afford them.
We don't mind the wait either, and frankly we don't have much of a choice (reason # 3), since my fiancÉ doesn't have enough holiday time until January anyway (unless he took unpaid time off).
It all makes sense to push back the honeymoon and be patient.
But one thing I know is that once all is said and done, once the wedding's over and all the crazy planning that goes with it, I'm going to need a break of some form. By that time, I will have spent 11 months planning the wedding (and you've all read about how stressful that is), and so I'm sure I'll be convinced that I deserve something for all that work (obviously), but here we are, putting that off until winter. So am I doing myself in by denying us a honeymoon right away? Am I insane?
And, by not having a vacation and only a few days off after the Big Day (one of them in a car driving back up north), I'm definitely wondering how and when (and if) I'll ever get to relax and de-stress. When will I get to relax if I'm just going right back to work?
One option we're considering is having a big backyard party with Fort St. John friends when we get back, like a barbecue with a bonfire, beverages and good local friends who couldn't make it to the wedding. That could be a good opportunity to blow off some steam and chill out with friends, talk about the wedding and just enjoy being married around an awesome fire.
Let's be real though, as much as I love barbecues, I'd rather be on a beach with a mojito in one hand and all-you-can-eat seafood in the other.
Since that will have to wait, I guess the next decision we'll have to make is where to go, but at least we've got a long time to figure that out.
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