The season with many faces is almost here. Winter. You know, the one that you hate because you’re freezing to death for six months but the one you also love because of and gingerbread, hot chocolate and presents.
One day it’s a cozy, cuddle-up-to-your-loved-one kind of season, then the next day you’re pulling your hair out because you’ve been cooped up inside with your partner for days on end and you’re both ready to kill each other.
Let’s face it – your car isn’t the only thing you need to winterize as the weather gets colder; your relationship might need some preparation too.
Whether you live on the wet West Coast or in the frigid Peace Region, winter’s weather can trap you indoors for long lengths of time.
So how can you winterize your relationship and make sure you’re both happy cooped up together until spring? Here are a few tips.
Find new things to do together inside to fight off boredom and develop a sense of teamwork. Learn new recipes in your crock pot, bake a couple dozen warm, gooey cookies together or decorate your home for the holidays as a couple (bonus points if you make the decorations yourselves).
You can pick up some new board games as well if you want more of a competitive evening together, perhaps paired up with some smooth winter ale or cider to keep things interesting. You can even tag team the household chores on the weekends and add some productivity.
And while doing things together is key to fighting off boredom and the winter blues, alone time is just as important to keep you from killing each other. The truth is that being around anyone too much can make you get pretty tired of them. Every little thing they do can drive you crazy; the sound of them crunching their food, how they rustle the potato chip bag during a movie or even how they breathe.
Before you start seeing red, you have to make sure that both of you get some time apart during the long winter, whether that means every day or just whenever tensions are high in the relationship. Treat alone time like a prescription and take as needed.
Do things in separate rooms for an hour or two, like reading a book, playing video games or just watching a movie alone. This will make sure you both stay sane instead of keeping you at each other’s throats. Another option is having nights out on the town with your own friends, like having a guys’ or girls’ night out. That will let you blow off some steam apart from each other.
Speaking of friends, why not invite them over to your place for a winter’s night to reenergize your home and get rid of some monotony that comes with winter? Host a poker or game night, or even a Christmas get-together with festive drinks and some of that baking you and your partner did together. This will allow you both to socialize together in your cozy home while showing off those decorations you spent all day putting up. It breaks up some of that winter boredom and adds some socialization to your relationship.
There are lots of things you can do to get your relationship through the long, cold winter; just remember that you don’t always have to do them together. In fact, hibernating in separate rooms every now and then might just save you from yourselves.