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John Grady: What! Me needing to change? Not me!

Who among us does not want true wholeness - true healing – true freedom?
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John Grady: "We can all develop an image or persona for others but the lie is if we believe that is who we really are. It is one thing to not be open and transparent but another when we lock ourselves into believing all is okay and there is no need to change."

We are all probably familiar with the story of Frank. Frank has a problem with Jim. Frank has a problem with Eric. Frank has a problem with Alice. Guess who has a problem?

It’s similar to the employee who can tell you the problem with his or her present employer as well as his or her former three employers. Guess who has the problem.

Both examples excel in the blame game. Both excel in being totally defensive. How can a person grow or change when they are totally defensive and operate in the attack mode?

One of the aspects of most Christian churches today is that we preach being “born again” being born of His spirit and that we are “new creatures in Christ,” which is all biblically true as we have “His Spirit” living within us. Unfortunately, that is just the start. The gift of salvation is free, but the maturing process comes with a cost and that is what most of us want to avoid.

So often people will share how they want to get closer to God, but they just can not enter into the intimacy they long for in spite of going to church, praying, bible reading while not realizing they have unconfessed sins, wrong coping mechanisms, unknown unresolved root issues that are all related to our heart. We can learn from a very young age how to protect our heart with layers and layers of protection (survival techniques), which we think keep us safe but in fact freezes all true growth and change.

We can all develop an image or persona for others but the lie is if we believe that is who we really are. It is one thing to not be open and transparent but another when we lock ourselves into believing all is okay and there is no need to change.

The one area the Lord desperately wants access to is our heart because the heart is the real work of change within us that needs to take place and He desires to have “full” access. Change is the one thing most of us fear the most because we feel we are exposed and no longer in control.

If you can envision a nuclear site, it has all the safety and security regulations and protocols in place for obvious reasons. Unknowingly, we can place our own safety and security measures in place around our heart because that has been our survival mechanism.

Who among us does not want true wholeness - true healing – true freedom? Yet we close out the one who desires it more than we do for ourselves because He wants us whole, healed, and free.

It can be our real lack of faith and trust in our Lord that does not allow Him to really change us into who He created us to be. He told us He came to heal the brokenhearted and set the captives free so we can trust Him but we need to choose to trust Him. He loves you and wants what is best for you. You can trust Him.


John Grady lives and writes in Fort St. John.